We were reading some stories online the other day and a line in there made us think, “It should be ‘me’ here, not ‘I'”, but then wondered if we were correct. We’d say we are not too shabby with grammar, but there are still times we have question marks, especially sentences with ‘You and I’ or ‘You and me’. So, when is it that it’s correct to say “you and I” and “you and me”?

We consulted our trusted grammar book, “Grammar for Dummies” that’s been sitting in the bookshelves gathering dust (no, not really, it was dust-free, but we haven’t opened it up in a while) and looked up all the pages that talk about ‘me’. It told us:

ME is defined as an object pronoun.

An object pronoun is a noun that act as objects: me, him, her, you, them, us, it. Object pronouns receive actions.

I is a subject pronoun.

A subject pronoun is a noun that stands in for/refers to a subject: I, he, she, you, they, we, it. Subject pronouns performs actions.

In other words, subjects does things to/with objects:

“Jon (subject) pushed me (object) into the elevator.”

“Jon (subject) threw me (object) a can of soda.”

“I (subject) pushed Daisy (object) into the elevator.”

“I (subject) threw Daisy (object) a can of soda.”

So ‘me’ can never be subjects of sentences (it’s an object pronoun!) and can only receive actions from those performed by subjects like ‘I’—a subject pronoun. Therefore, with that definition, the example sentences below, sentence A is correct while sentence B is incorrect:

A: Jon and I pushed Daisy into the elevator
B: Jon and me pushed Daisy into the elevator

Jon is a subject. ‘I’ is a subject (pronoun), but ‘me’ is not a subject but an object. You can test sentence A is correct and B is incorrect by removing one of the subjects (remove Jon) from the sentence:

A: I pushed Daisy into the elevator.

NOT…

B: Me pushed Daisy into the elevator.

‘Me’ can’t push Daisy, but ‘I’ can push Daisy!

Then there’s ‘Between you and I’, ‘Between you and me’.

We were watching some tv and we heard tv characters and tv hosts say, ‘between you and I’, but we’ve always believed that ‘between you and me’ is the correct one. We thought that maybe we were wrong. Surely screenwriters know their rules. Then we heard Sheldon Cooper, the character from The Big Bang Theory say, ‘between you and me’. Sheldon Cooper, a character who seems to be the type to be accurate and correct, must care about speaking with proper grammar, so ‘between you and me’ had to be correct, or is his speaking odd like he is?

It seems not all writers are great at grammar, or maybe writers do know, but it’s their characters who speak incorrectly (writers are only writing them realistically).

‘Between you and me’ is the correct one.

The explanation is that object pronouns (such as me) follow prepositions (at, between, towards, for, come, through, under, to, in, etc).

CORRECT: The rabbit is between Jon and me.
INCORRECT: The rabbit is between Jon and I.
CORRECT: Daisy came towards Jon and me.
INCORRECT: Daisy came towards Jon and I.
CORRECT: It’s time for you and me to cook.
INCORRECT: It’s time for you and I to cook.
CORRECT: Daisy bumped into you and me on purpose.
INCORRECT: Daisy bumped into you and I on purpose.

You can again test which is incorrect by removing one of the subjects (remove Jon/You) from the sentence. Removing Jon/You in the correct sentences gives you—

Daisy came towards me
It’s time for me to cook
Daisy bumped into me on purpose.

When we think we’ve got it down-packed, there are sentences like “It is me”—”It is me who took the dog for a walk”. In these sentences, using me sounds right, but the sentences should be spoken with ‘I’.

It is I who took the dog for a walk.

The reason is the word, ‘is’. ‘Is’ is what you call a linking verb (more information about Linking Verbs). Subject pronouns follows linking verbs not object pronouns. That’s why the correct pronoun to go in the above sentence is ‘I’ and not ‘me’.

In saying this, though, using ‘me’ in a sentence like ‘It is me’ appears to not be entirely faux pas. Common usage of ‘me’ in such sentences has made using ‘me’ acceptable in conversational speech/informal settings even though using ‘me’ in ‘it is me’ isn’t proper grammar. Grammaticians apparently will not bark at you for using me instead of I when everyone says ‘It is me’ and it is rare to find someone say ‘It is I’!

The research certainly has enlightened us! Hopefully, it has enlightened you. The next time you hear someone say “You and I” or “You and me”, you’ll know yourself which one is correct/proper grammar!

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